I’ve said it before and I’m sure I’ll say it again, parenting is the most humbling job on the planet. There are so many things I’ve done wrong. When I realize that I’ve been wrong, I always try to make sure that I address it with my kids and own up to my fault.
I thought I would do that publicly today. I’ve been wrong. I started out on the right path. I started out with good intentions. I started out focusing on the right things. But, somewhere along the road, somewhere in the high school years I got caught up in the swirl.
You know the swirl. “Where will you go to college?”, “What will you study?”, “What do you want to do for a living?”. None of these are bad questions in and of themselves. But, I started wondering if these were the right questions? After much thought, I came to the conclusion they are not the right questions.
The right questions are, “Who do you want to be?”, “What kind of person do you want to become?“, “What is the message in your heart that the world needs to hear?“, “How will you change this world for the better?“. They are weighty questions, to be sure, but they are important.
“None of us will ever accomplish anything excellent or commanding except when he listens to this whisper which is heard by him alone.” – Ralph Waldo Emmerson
What we do changes many times throughout the course of our lives. Making a living is not the same as making a life. Who we are is more important than what college we attended or what job we hold. If we can help our kids define “who” they want to be and help them reach that, everything else will fall into place as it should. That is where I am putting my hope and faith.
I’m going to work at changing the conversation with the young people in my life. I want to hear their hearts, I want to hear the message of their hearts. I urge you to try this with the teens in your life. You may be pleasantly surprised with the wonderful thoughts they have inside.
Always in your corner,