Every day across this globe there are weary mothers laying their heads on their pillows at the end of the day, running through all the tasks they weren’t able to accomplish, or reliving the spat with their children or spouse, and piling the weight of the world’s standards onto their own shoulders and drowning in “mom guilt.”
To be fair, there is a lot of pressure on moms today. More than there was in the past, I think. We feel judged for every tiny choice we make, from what we feed our kids, to how they are birthed, trained, or educated. Our houses are supposed to be designed and staged like on Pinterest. Our birthday parties and events are supposed to be perfectly executed. We should never, ever feed our kids junk food, or dairy, or gluten. And we should also look like fashion models in the process. These are fantastically outrageous goals and they are not attainable.
Mom guilt is a racket that we don’t have to buy into. That is not for us. We are called to be courageous. Motherhood demands courage. As Winston Churchill said, “Success is not final, failure is not fatal, it is the courage to continue that counts.” We can rise tomorrow and muster up that courage to continue and it will matter.
The battles we win on a daily basis may not look like much in this time and space but they have eternal value. Every time we refuse to listen to the lies of “you are not enough”, “you’re failing because you don’t do x, y, or z”, or “why aren’t you more like so-and-so”, every time we choose to embrace the truth of God’s word, we win.
It’s true that we may not see the fulfillment of all of our hopes and dreams, but faith is not about what we can readily see. Faith is believing what we know to be true regardless of what we see. The future is unknown to us but it does not rest in our hands alone. We have the great privilege of linking arms with God, trusting in His plan for our lives and the lives of our children, and hopefully choosing to walk in that plan.
The world would like us to worry and fret, and wonder if our kids will make it. Will they get into the right college? Will they marry the right person? Will they find success in their life? Will they regret their upbringing? Will they harbor ill will towards me if I don’t do it just right? Will I scar them? Will they suffer from eating those M&M’s and chicken nuggets?
Worry will not help anyone. We don’t need to be afraid. We can trust that God, in his infinite grace and love, will cause ALL THINGS to work for our good. In the words of Corrie Ten Boom, we don’t need to be “afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God.”
You and I can’t possibly know all the twists and turns that await us or our children as they grow. We can’t anticipate everything. But, we can trust. We can use fighting words. We fight by not giving into those lies, by instead speaking the word of God over our families and speaking truth to ourselves.
Women, we are warriors. Though we may not wield literal swords, we wield the sword of His word. If we can replace our weak and fearful words with the truth of His words, we can overcome any battle we face.
We need to fight for each other. We are not in competition, we are in a sisterhood. I lift you up and you lift me up. We need each other. We need to remind one another that we are enough. We need to stop judging, stop striving, and just love. Love each other’s strengths, but don’t compare; cover each other’s weaknesses and don’t give into judgment.
This is courageous motherhood, will you join me?